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//-->NO MOREMR. NICE GUY!A Proven Plan for GettingWhat You WantIn Love, Sex and LifeRobert A. Glover, Ph.D.Copyright © 2000 by Robert A. GloverThis edition published by Barnes & Noble Digital, by arrangement with Robert A. GloverAll rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without the writtenpermission of the Publisher.2001 Barnes & Noble DigitalISBN 1-4014-0001-9The men and women described in this book are real.Names and circumstances have been changed to protect the confidentiality of each individual.Additional resources for recovering Nice Guys are available atwww.NoMoreMrNiceGuy.comDedication And AppreciationThis book is dedicated to Elizabeth. You are my partner, my muse, and my best friend. If not for you, Iwould still be a hopelessly clueless Nice Guy. You are truly a gift from God. Thank you.For David, Jamie, Steve, and Grant. You are the greatest kids a parent could want. You are each sodifferent and unique that you make parenting a never-ending joy. Thank you for all the times you asked,"When are you going to finish your book?" Don't ever stop being just who you are.For the countless men and women who have invited me into the most personal areas of their lives. I havewritten this book for you. Thank you for your input and support in writingNo More Mr. Nice Guy!Especially for all the men who have been a part of my No More Mr. Nice Guy! men's groups. You willnever know how much being a part of your lives and has changed my own life. Thank you.For Dr. Anne Hastings. Your wisdom and insight can be found on every page of this book. You havehelped me believe that it is OK for me to be who I am, just as I am. Thank you.For Debby Duvall. Your editorial skills have covered a multitude of my sins. Thank you for helpingmake this a better book.Table Of ContentsIntroductionChapter OneChapter TwoThe Nice Guy SyndromeThe Making Of A Nice GuyChapter ThreeLearn To Please The Only Person Who Really MattersChapter FourMake Your Needs A PriorityChapter FiveReclaim Your Personal PowerChapter SixChapterSevenChapterEightReclaim Your MasculinityGet The Love You Want: Success Strategies For Intimate RelationshipsGet The Sex You Want: Success Strategies For Satisfying SexChapter NineGet the Life You Want: Discover Your Passion And Potential In Life, Work, AndCareerEpilogueIntroductionFive decades of dramatic social change and monumental shifts in the traditional family have created abreed of men who have been conditioned to seek the approval of others.I call these menNice Guys.Nice Guys are concerned about looking good and doing it "right." They are happiest when they aremaking others happy. Nice Guys avoid conflict like the plague and will go to great lengths to avoidupsetting anyone. In general, Nice Guys are peaceful and generous. Nice Guys are especially concernedabout pleasing women and being different from other men. In a nutshell,Nice Guys believe that if theyare good, giving, and caring, they will in return be happy, loved, and fulfilled.Sound too good to be true?It is.Over the last several years, I have encountered countless frustrated and resentful Nice Guys in mypractice as a psychotherapist. These passively pleasing men struggle in vain to experience the happinessthey so desperately crave and believe they deserve. This frustration is due to the fact thatNice Guyshave believed a myth.This myth is the essence of what I call theNice Guy Syndrome.The Nice Guy Syndrome represents abelief that if Nice Guys are "good," they will be loved, get their needs met, and live a problem-free life.When this life strategy fails to produce the desired results — as it often does — Nice Guys usually justtry harder, doing more of the same. Due to the sense of helplessness and resentment this patterninevitably produces, Nice Guys are often anything but nice.The concept of the Nice Guy Syndrome grew out of my own frustration of trying to do it "right," yetnever getting back what I believed I deserved. I was the typical "sensitive new age guy" — and proud ofit. I believed I was one of the nicest guys you would ever meet. Yet I wasn't happy.As I began exploring my own Nice Guy behaviors — caretaking, giving to get, fixing, keeping thepeace, avoiding conflict, seeking approval, hiding mistakes — I started noticing numerous men withsimilar traits in my counseling practice. It dawned on me that the script guiding my own life was not an [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]
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//-->NO MOREMR. NICE GUY!A Proven Plan for GettingWhat You WantIn Love, Sex and LifeRobert A. Glover, Ph.D.Copyright © 2000 by Robert A. GloverThis edition published by Barnes & Noble Digital, by arrangement with Robert A. GloverAll rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without the writtenpermission of the Publisher.2001 Barnes & Noble DigitalISBN 1-4014-0001-9The men and women described in this book are real.Names and circumstances have been changed to protect the confidentiality of each individual.Additional resources for recovering Nice Guys are available atwww.NoMoreMrNiceGuy.comDedication And AppreciationThis book is dedicated to Elizabeth. You are my partner, my muse, and my best friend. If not for you, Iwould still be a hopelessly clueless Nice Guy. You are truly a gift from God. Thank you.For David, Jamie, Steve, and Grant. You are the greatest kids a parent could want. You are each sodifferent and unique that you make parenting a never-ending joy. Thank you for all the times you asked,"When are you going to finish your book?" Don't ever stop being just who you are.For the countless men and women who have invited me into the most personal areas of their lives. I havewritten this book for you. Thank you for your input and support in writingNo More Mr. Nice Guy!Especially for all the men who have been a part of my No More Mr. Nice Guy! men's groups. You willnever know how much being a part of your lives and has changed my own life. Thank you.For Dr. Anne Hastings. Your wisdom and insight can be found on every page of this book. You havehelped me believe that it is OK for me to be who I am, just as I am. Thank you.For Debby Duvall. Your editorial skills have covered a multitude of my sins. Thank you for helpingmake this a better book.Table Of ContentsIntroductionChapter OneChapter TwoThe Nice Guy SyndromeThe Making Of A Nice GuyChapter ThreeLearn To Please The Only Person Who Really MattersChapter FourMake Your Needs A PriorityChapter FiveReclaim Your Personal PowerChapter SixChapterSevenChapterEightReclaim Your MasculinityGet The Love You Want: Success Strategies For Intimate RelationshipsGet The Sex You Want: Success Strategies For Satisfying SexChapter NineGet the Life You Want: Discover Your Passion And Potential In Life, Work, AndCareerEpilogueIntroductionFive decades of dramatic social change and monumental shifts in the traditional family have created abreed of men who have been conditioned to seek the approval of others.I call these menNice Guys.Nice Guys are concerned about looking good and doing it "right." They are happiest when they aremaking others happy. Nice Guys avoid conflict like the plague and will go to great lengths to avoidupsetting anyone. In general, Nice Guys are peaceful and generous. Nice Guys are especially concernedabout pleasing women and being different from other men. In a nutshell,Nice Guys believe that if theyare good, giving, and caring, they will in return be happy, loved, and fulfilled.Sound too good to be true?It is.Over the last several years, I have encountered countless frustrated and resentful Nice Guys in mypractice as a psychotherapist. These passively pleasing men struggle in vain to experience the happinessthey so desperately crave and believe they deserve. This frustration is due to the fact thatNice Guyshave believed a myth.This myth is the essence of what I call theNice Guy Syndrome.The Nice Guy Syndrome represents abelief that if Nice Guys are "good," they will be loved, get their needs met, and live a problem-free life.When this life strategy fails to produce the desired results — as it often does — Nice Guys usually justtry harder, doing more of the same. Due to the sense of helplessness and resentment this patterninevitably produces, Nice Guys are often anything but nice.The concept of the Nice Guy Syndrome grew out of my own frustration of trying to do it "right," yetnever getting back what I believed I deserved. I was the typical "sensitive new age guy" — and proud ofit. I believed I was one of the nicest guys you would ever meet. Yet I wasn't happy.As I began exploring my own Nice Guy behaviors — caretaking, giving to get, fixing, keeping thepeace, avoiding conflict, seeking approval, hiding mistakes — I started noticing numerous men withsimilar traits in my counseling practice. It dawned on me that the script guiding my own life was not an [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]